This transition stuff is hard.
If you reach out to a Coach and they tell you that career transitions are easy just laugh out loud and then run as fast as you can far, far away. This stuff is hard. I know because I am living it day in and day out.
I was downsized in September of 2012. It was just another day in Banking and Finance and I was just another person whose role became dispensable. The conversation went something like this: “You are amazing and such a valued employee, but in order to do the job you have been doing remotely for years you now need to move to a very cold and gray Midwest city. There you will able to join the other 12,000 employees who have access to 9000 parking spaces. What do you think?” NOT.
I was pushed out the door and decided to pursue my dream of Coaching and Youth Development. Noble pursuit for sure. Much needed by many people. But now what do I do? I have been coaching for years now and believe in the power of a good coach and the difference they can make in another’s life. But this means starting a business. Yikes. It becomes a vocation and not an avocation.
So the journey began. Don’t clap now because it ended quickly. I took a position with a local organization that had promise. I liked their product. I could get excited about this! Or so I told myself.
I couldn’t make it fit. I opted to postpone my fear of the unknown and stop the voices of doubt coming from those little demons that have been living under my bed since my childhood. You may have had a few of these lurking in the dark.
The fuzzy red eyed one that told you girls didn’t have dreams beyond the family and questioned your intelligence. The really scary one was the pale white apparition that constantly told you that in order to fit in you needed to be like everyone else. Forget the dreams of being something important, leaving your warm safe home and making a difference out there in the world.
I lasted 7 months and could have gone longer, but that is such a cop out. I talk so boldly and passionately about helping others transition, yet I wimped out within the first few months. That’s not the role model I want to be or the legacy I want to leave.
The journey has begun again. This is scary, hard, exciting and rewarding. How do I control all those emotions and make this happen? I know the tools and skills needed. I have tested the process. Now I am going to live it. Not saying what the outcome will be. I may run with the idea of my own company. It may mean going back into an organization. I am just not sure right now. I am sure I am going to learn from this experience.
Explore. Evaluate. Give it your best. Know your strengths and make decisions based on who you are. If your gut says it isn’t right listen to that message and take a different path. Explore. Evaluate. Live in your strength zone. Wash, Rinse and Repeat.